From USA Today:
“COVID, hurricanes, wildfires,
politics: 2020 is an American nightmare that's wearing us out”
It's too much. First the
pandemic, which divided us, economically devastated us, and has killed nearly
200,000 of us. Then the racial unrest, erupting at the deaths of more Black
Americans at the hands of police: George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Rayshard
Brooks, Daniel Prude. Now the extreme
weather. For only the second time in history, the National Hurricane Center has
moved into the Greek alphabet for storm names. This season's wildfires are
bigger, deadlier and more frequent than in years past. In the West, people
can't breathe. Add the headlines: Feminist icon Ruth Bader Ginsburg, lost to
complications of cancer on the first day of Rosh Hashanah, 46 days before the
presidential election. "Black Panther" star Chadwick Boseman, a hero
in the Black community, gone at 43 after quietly battling colon cancer. Another
woman accuses the president of sexual assault. A whistleblower claims federal
immigration detainees underwent full hysterectomies without their consent.
And the polarization, worse than
ever. We don't agree on masks, on reopening schools, on what to do when a
vaccine becomes available. Many of us are vacillating between horror and
disbelief at what can only be described as an American nightmare. Devastation
doesn't cover it. It's impossible to know if the worst is behind us or still
lies ahead. Apart from our own suffering, constant exposure to suffering of
others exacts a toll. Experts say what many of us are experiencing is
"disaster fatigue." "It's
a sense, essentially, of psychological overwhelm," said Patrick Hardy, a
certified emergency manager and risk manager. "You're being constantly
bombarded with negative information. ... It creates this sense of doom." When
disasters occur sequentially, it can make it seem as though our problems are
insurmountable. It's getting worse and worse, we think. It's never going to get
better.
A strict interpretation of
"disaster fatigue," Hardy said, puts disasters into three major
categories: Natural disasters (such as COVID and hurricanes), technological
emergencies (chemical spills and power outages) and security emergencies (acts
of terrorism and active shooters). But
Hardy said what qualifies as a "disaster" can also be subjective. "What may be a disaster to someone else,
isn't a disaster to you and me," he said. While all of us are tapped into
the disasters that become national news, community events can add to the mental
load. A plant closing in your town that puts hundreds of people out of work is
a disaster, too. Many are personally
suffering and bearing witness to even more suffering, which can lead to another
condition called "compassion fatigue." "It's really referring to
the stress or the emotional strain of having that high level of empathy, and
exposing yourself to this level of suffering, and when that happens over long
periods of time, it can manifest in a variety of different psychological ways,"
said Vaile Wright, director of clinical research and quality at the American
Psychological Association.
Old mental health issues, new
challenges Lisa Phillips, 57, who
lives with depression, says she's "sick" over what's happening to the
country. Her husband's dental practice was on mandatory closure for two months,
and since she works there, too, both incomes stopped. They've since re-opened,
but many of the staff have been struggling with health issues and lack of
childcare, which has ripple effects for Phillips and her husband. "It's
been extremely stressful," said Lisa Phillips, 57. "It's hard to
sleep." Her daughter's university moved exclusively online.
Wildfires in Oregon forced her brother and sister-in-law to evacuate their
home. The day after their evacuation, her father died in California. The family
didn't gather for a funeral. To cope, Phillips went back to counseling
and increased her medication. "It kind of feels like when something
else can't possibly happen, it does," she said. "I put one foot in
front of the other but it takes quite a bit of effort." Political
differences have also divided her family, compounding tangible losses. Stress
and conflict are the new normal. "I don't feel apathetic, I feel
overwhelmed and I'm very discouraged about the polarization in our
country," she said. "I'm fearful we won't get back to who we
were."
Plans derailed Matt
Wunderli, 36, was in the middle of building a technology startup when he went
into lockdown with his wife and kids in Salt Lake City. Now, he's surrounded by
wildfires. "In the beginning, I think we were all kind of
sheepishly laughing about this, like 'what is going on'?," he said.
"From the pandemic to the civil unrest to the political divides. As a
country we're sort of being slowly unwoven." Wunderli says he's
often overwhelmed by the negativity on Twitter, and can find it hard to stay
optimistic. Living in a very religious state, he said, people around him often
talk about this as the end of times. "It's
a very stressful time for me as a founder, an entrepreneur, a husband, a father,
a neighbor thinking about all the calamity around me and what's next," he
said.
A country unrecognizable Christina
Cuevas, 35, lives with her husband and two sons in Gardena, California, and
recently recovered from postpartum depression. Then the pandemic hit. Her
anxiety spiked. Cuevas, who has asthma, is having panic attacks. She's stressed
about her family's businesses – she and her husband are in real estate
development –and she's worried for her children and their futures. "Every
day you're bombarded with something new," she said. "I'm of Mexican
descent, and I was born in America. Yesterday was Mexican Independence Day. I
had tequila with my husband. We were celebrating the culture and then I read
that news article about hysterectomies being performed on immigrant women. I
was sick. It's repulsive that this can happen in America." Right
now, she says "there is no hope." There is only the election.
Abbey Barton, 26, lives in New
Orleans, which is often hard-hit during the hurricane season. New Orleans has
had a couple of close calls in 2020, on top of the pandemic. "We're in the
peak of hurricane season, and there's no outlet for stress fatigue," she
said. "Can 2020 just be over?" She knows people so overwhelmed
they're not preparing for storms as they typically would. Defeat, she says,
seems all around. "I've had people say to me 'I was
exhausted by everything before the hurricane season. If it gets me, it gets
me,'" she said. Barton worries about what her city, in some ways already
unrecognizable, may look like when the pandemic is finally over. "Walking downtown, you don't hear the
music anymore," she said.
Worried for the kids Austin
Sargent, 29, is an English teacher and high school football coach in South
Carolina. There are times he's felt overwhelmed, but mostly he's focused on his
students, who often seem paralyzed by their circumstances. School was a release for a lot of kids.
And while in-person instruction has resumed where he teaches, they are now
dealing with new and different stressors. Friends who've been apart for months
are adjusting to new protocols and social norms. The kids, he said, are struggling just as
much as adults. "I'm an English teacher. We read, and then we ask
ourselves, 'What is the author really trying to say?' In the first couple of
weeks of school, we're going over literary terms, talking about the mood of the
text, how it makes the reader feel. And one of my students raised their hand
and said 'I don't watch the news, because it makes my mood so terrible.'"
'Not in this together' Denys
Williams, 48, moved from San Leandro, California, to Reno, Nevada, about a year
ago, when it all felt different. Now, she's living in a new city much less
diverse than her previous one, which can be isolating. "I'm
exhausted. I'm sad. I have the hardest time concentrating. I'm just so
distracted by what's going on in the world. I cannot focus," said Denys
Williams, 48. "It's not only that 2020 is a dumpster fire, it's that
there's no one around me who I can really relate to or talk to about it,"
she said. "We couldn't breathe in Reno for a good week and a half, add to
that the political unrest, the racial injustice, not feeling like anyone is in
my corner — it's been so difficult." This summer, she said the KKK
showed up in a town about 20 minutes from where she lives. She's dealing with
stressors some of her non-minority friends and co-workers can't fathom. "My
co-workers will say, 'How are you?' and I'll say, 'It's tough.' They're like,
'Hang in there, we're all in this together.' But we're not. I want to say, 'You
have no idea.'"
Resisting defeat Hardy says when
feeling overwhelmed, look for positive stories. They're out there, even when
they're difficult to find. "There are stories of people surviving
disasters, people doing the right things, people enduring," he said. So
much of what feels surreal and absurd about this moment is how much is out of
our control. Making a plan, for what to do in a disaster or even what to do to
feel productive amid the chaos, can help people wrest back some control. The greatest danger, experts say, is a descent
into apathy. That people will start to believe that the things they do don't
matter.
Phillips, Wunderli, Cuevas,
Barton, Sargent and Williams all said they plan to vote in November. Wunderli started
a podcast addressing mental health issues for founders and entrepreneurs.
Phillips said she joined the board of a local non-profit and has continued to
support local charities. And even though she always wears a mask when she's
out, she says she still tries to smile, with her eyes, at everyone she sees. "What if everybody just gave up?"
Wright said. "Then the world would really be in trouble. Individual
actions do count because they accumulate. The worst thing that we could do is
throw up our hands and say, 'Nothing matters, so why even bother?' Because if
every single person did that, what would this world look like?"
^ It seems every thing that can
go wrong is going wrong in 2020 and it’s only September. While we can’t do much
about the Hurricanes, the Wildfires (except not hold Gender-Reveal Parties that
start them) or Covid-19 we can do something about Politics and the different
Protests and Violence across the country. ^
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